Node API core consolidation #44071

People are complaining that the node-api core implementation is deviating from node.js core conventions and has a lot of workarounds and non-conventional mechanisms, especially around the finalizers. It makes it harder to maintain the node-api code base.

I'm working with the @nodejs/node-api team on the document https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Bqm05PWQni65FVdSKiaVAkqCAOD9HIfCqG_Y4CAYTbo/edit?usp=sharing to list the problems we are facing and try to figure out what approaches we can apply.

@addaleax thanks for bringing the topic up at #36510 (comment).

Opening this issue to track the progress.